Too fat for Mom jeans?

Have the words, ‘I’m too fat to wear those’ ever come out of your mouth? Because they come pouring from my pie hole on the daily.  I put myself down so many times per day, that its almost become second nature, to the point, where most of the time, I don’t even realise Im doing it.  Its never a ‘oh, feel sorry for me’ put down, its nearly always for comedy value.  Often people laugh, I want them to laugh, after all, but sometimes people look concerned and maybe a little bit heartbroken that I’m so nasty about myself.

Ive just accepted that this is who I am and whilst, I’ll always put myself down for the purpose of getting a laugh, I’ve been really trying lately to be kinder to me.  I often get put down, by family members and friends, most of the time its either passive aggression, or they don’t even realise they’re doing it, but its still really fucking hurtful.  So why is it less hurtful when I abuse myself so horrendously? I often think perhaps I’m punishing myself for something? Maybe for liking food a bit too much and not liking exercise enough.  Maybe its because I don’t look like most of the really successful bloggers or YouTubers? Who knows, all I know is, it has to stop, i’m damaging my own self esteem and as I said before, I’ve got enough people in my life served with the purpose of making me feel shitty about myself, I don’t need to add to that by being my own worst enemy.

J’adore Tee: Boohoo
‘Mom Jeans’ were not on my radar, until recently,  I always thought that anything that high waisted would look like a pair of pregnancy pants for the over 40s on me, not to mention the fact that they have absolutely no give, what-so-ever! If you own a pair of ‘Mom Jeans’ and are a curvy girl, like me, you’ll understand the struggle, of being a size 12 in TOPSHOP Jamie jeans and suddenly jumping to a cool size 16 in Mom jeans! What the fuck is that about?!

There are three ‘Influencers’ who inspire my style choices…


Lydia Elise Millen: lydiaelisemillen.com

Alix: www.icovetthee.com

But out of my three favourite women on the internet, one will always have my back in terms of the right fit and that is Alix, who is approximately the same shape and build as me and I couldn’t be prouder of that fact, because she is ‘goals’ (I think I might be too old to be using terms like ‘goals’, but stay with me guys #clingingtomyyouth) Anything she buys, generally, I’ll buy, because I know that it will not only fit me, but it will look good (Not great though, lets not go crazy, don’t forget, i’m still a fully affirmed self saboteur)

Blazer: ASOS
Farleigh Jeans: ASOS

Introducing the ASOS Farleigh Jeans, a mom jean, like no other (actually they’re probably like every other mom jeans, you still have to size up TWICE) Alix has mentioned a few times, her love for these jeans and I always thought that they looked incredible on her, but I just didn’t have the confidence to pull them off – queue, the absolutely shit selection of clothing on ASOS, at the moment and my shameful shopping addiction.  The Farleigh Jeans had been sat in my saved items for too long, I wanted something different and I knew I could simply return them, feeling a little bit worse about myself for ten minutes, until comforted by cake, at which point, Id get over it and move on with my life.

The next day they arrived, I ripped open the packaging and popped them on…They looked good, win! And, better still, they didn’t look like pregnancy pants!

Yes, before you ask, someone has patted my tummy and asked when i’m due before and yes, the person in question is dead now. 

(Obviously i’m kidding, the remains of the nasty battleaxe, are not buried in my back garden, I’m sure she’s very much alive, the cow)

Bag: Accessorize 

So if ever you feel like you cant wear something because you’re not ‘skinny enough’ or you’re not the ‘right shape’, take that thought or feeling and say ‘fuck you, buddy’ Im wearing the mom jeans and not only am I wearing them, I’m going to do so, whilst continuing to be the absolute queen I am.

Seriously guys, I’m the worst for it, but please, stop putting yourself down, the only person you’re hurting is yourself.  And to quote Mark Darcy – ‘I like you very much, just as you are’

(Except for that old woman who thought I was pregnant, that one time, I don’t like you, you are the worst)

9 Comments

  1. November 21, 2017 / 9:09 pm

    Girl, I don't get the negativity because you look absolutely amazing ! You've styled everything so well and the jeans suit you perfectly !
    -Nusha

  2. November 21, 2017 / 9:47 pm

    You are literally gorgeous, I know it's easy for me to say as a stranger but if I looked like you I'd be WELL happy haha! I'm a curvy size 12/14 too and I recently bought some mom jeans with heart cut outs in the knees (hi five), I literally texted my best friend a photo when i bought them asking if i was too fat for them too! I totally agree that we need to be kinder to ourselves, with time and self-care I think we can do it!
    Alice Xx
    http://www.blacktulipbeauty.co.uk

  3. November 21, 2017 / 10:53 pm

    I'm not really a fan of mom jeans personally but I do love this outfit! And most importantly, you're not too anything to wear anything. If you like the way it looks/ the way you feel in it that's all that matters!

    Sophie
    http://www.glowsteady.co.uk

  4. November 28, 2017 / 7:56 pm

    You are absolutely gorgeous! You look so happy in the photos, and you've styled everything so well! I wish I had your skill!

    acupofwonderland.wordpress.com

  5. February 11, 2018 / 11:58 am

    You are crazy girl! I love that outfit and you look fabulous!! But I get you tho. They are some of those stretchy jeans I fit in 12 and then different style with taught fabric and I cannot fit into 16 and it always brings me to the state of “Oh, am I really that big girl? I though it’s not that bad. LOL”

    • rebeccaroseblog721
      February 11, 2018 / 10:50 pm

      Thanks so much and thank you for taking the time to read my blog and write a reply! clothes sizing is such a strange one! I think as long as you feel comfortable in your own skin, it doesnt matter wha size you are! xx

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